Oral Sex for Him

Oral sex is quite simply awesome! It can be enjoyable for both the giver and receiver. Below are some helpful tips and bits of information that can improve your next experience.

Safety Tips

Too many people are under the impression that oral sex is risk-free. While it is less risky than genital-to-genital contact, there are a number of diseases which can be transmitted via oral contact there is still an exchange of bodily fluids (saliva, semen, pre-ejaculate, vaginal secretions). Most adults (82%) do not even take precautions when engaging in oral sex. 

Risks are higher when there is an open cut through which infections can more easily make their way into the bloodstream. Two sexually transmitted diseases which are of particular concern with oral sex are Herpes Simplex and Human Papillomavirus (HPV). Other potential diseases include Gonorrhea, Chlamydia and even HIV. Do not despair. Use of the following barrier methods can help reduce the risk of infection.

If you want to learn more about oral sex for women, click here.

Technical Term Commonly known as Barrier Method
Fellatio blow jobs, swallowing the salami Use of condoms. The taste of latex is not appealing but for your convenience, we offer flavored condoms.
Analingus tossing a salad, rim job Use a dental dam. If they are not available, use plastic wrap (no you won't find that on the SARAN WRAP website) or slit a condom down the sides and cover the area

 For further reading on this, we recommend the Center for Sexual Pleasure & Health's article "Q&A: Safer Oral Sex." 


Blowjobs (or Fellatio)

First....some humor



Conveying your desires out loud not only clarifies expectations but can help set the mood. Think about it - sitting or lying next to your partner and whispering what you can do to him is an amazing turn-on for both of you. 

Ask him ahead of time what he likes.

  • Fast or slow?
  • Soft or hard?
  • Nibbling or sucking? Where? 
  • Teeth? (Yes, this is a big one...not all men like teeth. This can be a major turn-off).

Clarify what he should be doing while you are going down on him.

  • Can he touch you? If so, where?
  • Can he grab the back of your head? This can be a major point of contention with some women
  • Where should he finish? Yes, eventually if all goes well, he will ejaculate (come).

While communicating what you want or like to do beforehand is important, keep your ears and eyes open to read his body language. Take notice of when his breath quickens, his skin trembles, his whimpers and moans.



As we mentioned earlier, hygiene is an important part of sharing this most intimate act. Making the experience more enjoyable for the giver will increase enthusiasm and result in a more intense and pleasurable time. Gentlemen, consider trimming your pubic region (errant hairs can be a turn off). Also, do yourself and your partner a favor and shower beforehand. Be especially mindful if you are not circumcised as you want to clean beneath the foreskin. Common courtesy is a MUST.


Getting down to business...

Focus on the most sensitive parts of the male anatomy

  1. Tip of the penis
  2. Testicles
  3. Perineum, the area between the testicles and anus (a.k.a. "the taint")

Use the hand while using your mouth enhances the experience. If you use your hands, you will need lubricants for which there are many options. Our favorite options for this as we mentioned above are flavored lubricants. We feature some wonderful flavored lubes, especially those from Nature Labs as well multiple flavored products that can enhance the experience.

Remember that enthusiasm goes a long way. If a man thinks that you are simply doing a chore, then his enjoyment will diminish. Talk to him, moan...make him feel like you want to be there.

If you are trying to get as much of the penis in your mouth and throat as possible, you may encounter problems with gag reflect. We offer Deep Throat Spray from Doc Johnson which may help you avoid this reaction. "Deep throating is easiest when you're in a position when your chin is high and your neck is straight" (Source: Doc Johnson). 


Anal Play

This is definitely an option while performing oral sex. but we will talk about this in greater detail in our Anal Play article. This is definitely something to consider for future activities.


The Finale

If all goes well, there will be an explosive finish. There are basically three options: spit, swallow or dodge. This is one of those points it is best to agree upon before engaging because there is little warning before a man has an orgasm...and let's be honest, you do not have all of your faculties when you are coming.

If you want to learn more about oral sex for women, click here.


Additional Resources:

Listed below are some terrific resources for learning more about various aspects of oral sex.

The Art of BlowJob Educational Series offers 25 free short videos about two key elements of good oral sex - Attitude and Technique.

You can also read our interview with TAOBJ star, Piper Blush.

The Grapefruit Method

No words...just watch.



Further Reading: