How to Choose a Toy

So what will get you off? That's the question that every customer confronts and is the central concern about any purchase of a sex toy. Here is the challenge: Because everyone is made differently, manufacturers design a wide array of products to pleasure different anatomies.

Sex toys are not new

Sex Toys have been around for millenia. Don't believe us? Phallus-style toys date back 28,000 years.  Many of those devices were made from stone and even camel dung. One recent toy, dated 300 years old, was recently found in an archaeological site in Poland. People in general tend to think that sex toys are something only recent generations came up with as a result of rock 'n roll or the decline of society.

The fact of the matter is that people have been looking for a way to pleasure themselves for thousands of years. The history of vibrators is fascinating: "...women's sexual pleasure was the furthest thing from the minds of the male doctors who invented vibrators almost two centuries ago. They were interested in a labor-saving device to spare their hands the fatigue they developed giving handjobs to a steady stream of 19th century ladies who suffered from 'hysteria,' a vaguely defined ailment easily recognizable today as sexual frustration." (Source: Psychology Today)

You are not alone

  Know what your buttons are and how you like to have them touched

  • Experts agree that your chances of finding an enjoyable and effective toy improve when you know what area of your body are most sensitive and responsive to different types of touch.

Choose Body-Safe materials

  • Avoid anything with Phthalates (learn more here).
  • Stick to Silicone when possible

Know your lubes

  • As a general rule, silicone-based lubricants should NOT be used in conjunction with silicone-coated toys. Instead use water-based lube. This is due to the fact that different styles or formulations of silicone may react poorly together and result in offensive odors or breakdown of the materials.
  • Pay attention to the labels and product descriptions as some manufacturers will advertise that their products are safe to use with any toy. 

Do not spend a fortune because it's not necessary.

  • We offer a large selection of affordable toys for beginners.
  • Do not be fooled by a price tag. We offer some of the high-end toys to be sure, but if you are just starting out and unsure as to what you want to try, there is a large selection of reasonably priced ($20-$50) that should help you along.

Share with your partner

  • When appropriate, we recommend including your partner in using your toy. After all, it is supposed to be enjoyable and sexy. Using a toy can be a learning experience for both of you.
  • A lot of men can feel threatened by the toy, scared that it is their natural replacement. Well until Skynet becomes sentient and there are Sex-Terminators in every house, this seems doubtful.

Go slow...but go

  • Do not be intimidated.
  • Feel free to contact us should you have any questions.
  • Also, check out our Resources page for more information on toys and sexploration!
  • Try it out. If you don't like one, try another.


  • You will find that toys can be used for multiple purposes in various ways. While the label may read "Forclitoral stimulation," don't let that inhibit your imagination. If you indulge your adventurous side you will find uses for toys, particularly the powered ones, besides those on the label.
  • Make sure however to practice safe hygienic practices. 



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